If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.

One of the things individuals do when they have experienced trauma or abuse is that they undermine or invalidate the experience. Although therapy is about empowerment to move beyond these negative experiences, I believe it is essential for survivors to develop the capacity for a deep sense of self-compassion and curiosity about how negative experiences shaped them. 

The truth is the negative experiences we endure shift our brain and nervous system like a blueprint and place us in what feels like a perpetual state of fear (manifesting as avoidance or self-sabotage) or fight or flight response; in other words, you may feel "stuck." Although throughout our time together, we will explore how our internal dialogue can be the mechanism for change through shifting in thought and behavioural patterns, we need to first sit with the pain and the experience and, in a way, befriend it. By doing so, we shift our relationship to the experience while eliminating self-blame and shame and once we find safety we can begin to make cognitive and behavioural changes. 

This is a gentler approach to providing therapy in a trauma-informed manner while honouring the capacity for us to heal through deep self-compassion, safety within the self and others, curiosity, and understanding. 

I work with Individual Adults with a history of Abuse, Bullying, Harassment, Childhood Trauma and Emotional Neglect, Borderline Personality Disorder and PTSD, Breakups/ Divorce, Relationship and Work-related concerns.